Today received materials for Mary Miller Jordan's internet course. Read the pdf file and watched the videos.
http://www.marymillerjordan.com/secretpage
Some thoughts of mine after reading/watching:
The first month is to be all about the human. The first lesson is about creating the Grazing Mode or Best Friends mode or what I call for myself the Golden feeling (one-ness). The positive, peaceful state of love and acceptance.
I liked MMJ's thoughts about negative highways. The negatives in our life create big highways--this at one time was critical to our survival that we focus on negatives to insure our safety, etc. The positives that happen in life tend to get forgotten or only forge narrow paths through the woods. SO to over-ride the big negative and make the positive as important, we can practice it purposefully to make it stronger and the positive can be in our mind and not something that actually happened. Visualization. (remember American Dance Festival ballet visualization course). Use our good experience to imbed in memory. Negatives don't go away but by shifting focus to positive they lose power.
Our minds and horses minds think in pictures.
Negative self talk--eliminate the word NOT. Instead create a positive visualization the horse and I want to see.
Plan for week will be TT thankfulness time similar to dwell time with horse but with specific visualization added. 7 minutes: first--listen to guided grounding session, next 5 create movie as positives including 5 senses, last minute is a count down from 60 to 0 to set the positive feeling. Good place to do this would be sitting or lying down in Try's pasture with her.
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Lesson – Thankfulness Time (T Time) to train the Human’s Mind and Energy components of B ME
Future Applications -
1.
Relaxation Cue - creates ground tie, stand still to be mounted, settle at a scary object etc.
2.
Neutral - gives you a way to re-group when you or your horse gets stuck in the wrong gear
3. The
foundation of EVERYTHING that has to do with a relationship with a horse.
Grazing Mode Energy Theory {B ME – ENERGY Component}
Graze. It is actually been studied and proven that horses calm themselves down by grazing. I also need a built in mechanism to calm down?!
"The horse craves the Energy he feels while grazing. It is a relaxed, peaceful Energy and the horse
recognizes it as safe. To be able to create that same Energy within yourself (the human) and to have the
horse trust your guidance enough to ‘see’ and align with your own internal GM Energy. THAT is the
ultimate goal. THAT is the ultimate connection. Grazing Mode Energy THAT is the ultimate cookie for
your horse."
Energy as a visual picture – in GM circular flow.
They have a steady tempo. They are consistent. soft, welcoming. GM Energy is safe. You can trust it because it always does the same thing. The horse knows this innately and is drawn to it. TRY is GM energy for me--I feel safe, warm, peaceful, welcomed, etc.
I get to GM most effectively by being with Try.
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1. one minute of grounding: I actually need more and it works best to take the time it tasks to rid myself of as much tension as possible before the tape starts the one minute.
2. five minutes of playing the movie: to concentrate for 5 minutes--helps me to have rhythm, a MOVING movie that progresses. I found joy in visualizing Try and I happily doing new things together in new ways.
3. end listening to tape with count down from 60: this works well for me
Notes to Mary Miller Jordan:
I have noted for years that Try and I sometimes have MAGIC days
together when we are really in sync and anything we do on the ground or riding
flows easily. This is often a weekend morning when I just want to be with Try
and don’t have an agenda/plan. So HA this is all about my state of mind. It is
sort of that meditation one-ness, all is well in the universe and all is
connected sort of feeling. So I have been puzzled for several years trying (and
sometimes trying too hard) to create that energy or state of being. Oh and it
can be both peaceful and joyful and free and physically “dancing.”
So after auditing your session in Swansboro and seeing you train
horses with a soft, little gold ribbon, I was hugely impressed. Then (??April)
Try and I had a huge magic day—I was playing on the ground with a Parelli
trained guest pony in a pasture next to Try’s pasture. That pony would do what
I asked but the connection was not there and it wasn’t satisfying. Next I went
to Try’s pasture to say HI and she offered all the things I was doing with that
pony and more—lightly and beautifully. It changed in that moment my whole
outlook. I call it the Golden feeling because she is palomino and your ribbon
was gold. I felt at that moment that Try is perfect and can do no
wrong—everything she does is wonderful although some adjustments can be made
from time to time. She is 23 and I am 68—we have been together 12 years and
this new feeling I don’t think is ever going to change as the love is so great.
We already had a pretty awesome connection but this is better still. She still
expresses how she feels about things and can have “negative” thoughts—they just
don’t bother me—just information to let me know how she is doing.
With B Me—I believe I can learn to be a still better partner and we
will be able to go beyond what we are now able to do.
GM energy: My best way to find my internal grazing mode energy is, and has been for years, just being with Try. She gives me the golden feeling and I
feel the love, peace. I believe she has been training me with GM energy for
many years. LOL
MMJ Reply:
WOW! I Love reading your
responses. And I love what you said about
the Parelli technique (dwell time) - I had never heard of that - I can see some similarities
in the since that the goal is to get folks to decompress and release - just to
BE ... but my intent is for TTime to dive even deeper into who we are - to guide
us to just BE - b/c that is the key to connected with our horse even further.
.. The better we get at go to GM ourselves - the deeper we can communicate with
our horse... and I want you to be able to 'go there' into GM when your horse is
NOT there (not relaxed) - that's when they really need us and that's when it's hardest to go
there - but critical we do.
As far as Try approaching you
in your movie - then feeling offended (when I ignore her) - I SO GET THAT - but I would love for
you to go a step deeper in your way of thinking about what happened (I have had
this happen myself - it's powerful) ... When you open yourself through TTime
(or whatever technique) to your horse .. and especially when your movie
involves them - they DO see it and often times they get really excited about it
and want to become engaged - sometimes they will physically do things - but
sometimes you'll 'hear/feel/see' them trying to talk to you ... it's different
for everyone - but when I have felt that desire from the horse to communicate -
and when I acknowledge it - they LOVE it - they get all excited and giddy
almost - like they can not believe I heard them ... it's surreal ... The key is
to be open to it and just go with it (even though the world might think we are
loony toons lol) ... Next time you feel that desire from her to be a part of
your movie - let her in - have a conversation with her in your mind ... go with
it - believe what you hear - be open and inviting to her thoughts - I really
think she wants you to. .. and it will open you up to a deeper level of
communication with her where she can participate even more from her end. (Sephira is here also.)
Let Try help you - but also
remember to work on YOU and work on ways to be able to do this without Try -
and with another horse. .... It is Try's gift to you to be able to help you
with this - but you want it to become part of your core - something you can tap
into with any relationship with any horse - or any person or any situation.
MORE--wrap up/review video
The purpose of Thankfulness Time TT the 1-5-1, 7 minute exercise is to create grazing mode (the golden feeling in ourselves). MMJ states that this is personal to each of us--whatever work. Various ways to do it. But the counting is important. We need to be able to go to GM instantly. So we are building GM tools before we can use them.
Getting to GM--the TT movie: ideas take a happy peaceful experience and count while in the actual experience i.e. grooming the horse--with rhythm.
Harder to find and use GM when the horse is NOT relaxed or when I am REALLY tense.
