Thursday, August 21, 2014

Thursday am early B Me

MMJ just posted a video pep talk after the first two weeks:

So helpful to realize that of course that this is a work in progress for everyone of creating the state of being within ourselves that we desire.

Prime example is my whining and complaining even to myself about how busy I am and how much I have to do that creates tension blocking my ability to connect with my horses. Even more so getting frustrated and getting into a fight with the horse. Horses feel that energy and some just completely put up a block and do not relate--keeping you out with no chance of a conversation. Also being direct line and having an agenda as I did with the riding yesterday is something Try REALLY feels.

I have learned through Parelli study not to get into a fight--at least I understand that. I strive to not feel frustration with them. I can correct and then laugh and dispel the energy with Sephira and she seems curious about that--perhaps that she can't "get my goat." i.e. mounting block Tuesday when she knowingly stepped away--mostly to test me and be in control but perhaps a tiny bit of fear as well--so I whopped her on the butt big time then laughed and changed my energy quickly to positive (thank you Carol Coppinger). Repeated and mounting went smoothly and we waited.

Solution: take a breath, let go of whatever, tell the horse something kind. thankful. 60 second count, breathe and start again. I am personally finding waiting the 60 seconds with positive visualization to be very powerful.
This is NOT wasting time--time is wasted if the negative energy isn't changed.

MMJ says when she is dedicated to this way of thinking that is when the brilliant moments happen. I believe that totally.

I am almost done with your write-up for Session 3 - but must hit the hay  I'll have it posted tomorrow for you all - but wanted to go ahead and share this little clip first - you are not alone - we are all in this together 
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  • Elizabeth Pope Wonderful. Thank you. Without realizing that I was doing so, I have been beating myself up over the fact that I have been sorta/off and on trying to do this for myself for 40 years and not yet perfect nor able to make every moment perfect permanently. HA silly girl--so helpful to view your video!!!!!!! Great way to start this new day!!
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Wednesday, August 20, 2014

Wednesday - Just Try and I


  • Awesome long reins driving--best ever
  • HQ yields from a look or driving--great
  • I loved riding
  • I did my 1st nearly successful leg wrap thanks to Try being so helpful
  • Amazingly easy with everything on the ground
  • B Me cookie with big release/licking and chewing
1. How do I apply B Me to riding so it can be just so incredibly positive?
2. Review for Marie Monday

Visualization before and during and B Me cookies are working well for us.

What we did:

We had some magic brilliant moments today:
1. We began on the ground with long line driving and it was amazing. We have not done this for at least a year and Try remembered right off the bat to begin from wheelbarrow turn/HQ instead of traditional ask. Then we walked together easily here and there turning etc for a couple minutes. Just so lovely and pleasant. We followed this up with 60 sec visualization cookie. Lots of licking and chewing.
2. Next we did HQ yield from a look. left side we got this quickly. cookie given. Then right side it took 3 attempts including upping phases--she got it--big nicker and release. cookie
3. Sidepassed into me on the mounting block even though I felt she didn't want to go riding. Perhaps she felt the huge agenda I had going. Or perhaps she was hurting some where? She had had two days off.

The riding we pretty much did it all and Try pretty much went along with all of it BUT it is a new PRIORITY to begin using the cookie riding. Let loose of AGENDA and expectations and offer little pieces of task with cookie reward.

What we did riding:
1. walk--check list of what needs suppling to get a good walk, passenger at the walk, HQ to put nose of the circle, moving Try off my leg in zone 3 for suppleness.
2. trot--getting a good walk to make for good upward transition, really post with energy (only sorta), circling from HQ, did not do spiral or serpentine
3. canter--ask uphill, brief 1/2 halts
4. stretching vertically at the trot using 1/2 halt or circle/stroke reins for quality trot

in between each we walked to the shade and stopped for me to visualize/cookie but I couldn't get myself out of agenda mode.


Tuesday - Notes from phone coaching Dawn Roth

This was not the most helpful session--I was spacey and had trouble concentrating and was going sorta stream of consciousness which was not helpful and not taking advantage of Dawn's area of expertise.

Important: ask Marie for help in Jake's concepts of leading with the nose and using the HQ to shape both on the ground and in the saddle with the intention of helping supple Try. Email/video Dawn how it goes.

Also send Dawn my updated goals. Riding plan, Try, Sephira and I.

Nose leads: Nose, neck maybe the feet--think in everything you do. Use pushing the inside hind leg to shape on the circle and to release tension in Try's body. (wheelbarrow turn idea). NOTE: if the nose goes off the circle then the mind has already left. Adjust the mental with pushing hip if Try has checked out.

Reminder: cueing with leg--at the girth move sideways, in front of the girth move shoulder, 1-2" behind is move HQ.

On the ground playing on line circling game--when the nose leaves push the hip out. Relieve Try's brace in her rib cage. Marie--hand in pocket on circling game.


Tuesday - Lesson with MH and Sephira

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AXjF-isgAp8&feature=youtu.be
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aduFS9CmWR4
Video below is uploaded from youtube to blogger.


We are working on developing the warmup and basics of a session. I would say that what we are doing is predressage. Also working on making ipad my new camera--higher resolution--no room BUT large screen and mounted on tripod makes for much easier job for videographer. Experimenting anyway. Two links--first has a # of clips--I saved as file to hard drive and uploaded to youtube. Second is one clip only and had Pinnacle Studio software do the uploading to youtube. Comparing quality: second is better but no where near as good as the original. Third is same quality, smaller image, more convenient to view here. Test--ask Dawn if she can watch it.

Tuesday
Grooming in wash stall. Nice compliment from BA on how much Sephira has grown to trust me. In the ring we played with B Me cookie: I asked for HQ yield and got it from a look only and gave the 60 sec visualization reward. Then asked for backup and Sephira thought and then took a full step back cued from my look and body energy. 60 second/visualization cookie given. Mounting block: played friendly. When went to mount she moved HQ and I immediately whopped her on the butt with the carrot stick--big reaction from Sephira. Then repeated and she was great. Warmed up with walk and trot.

ballet ribcage/fitness
  • I loved trotting it felt like dancing, flying, free
  • HQ from a look
  • backup from facial expression and forward E (??understanding phases after talk??)
  • Spray conditioner on forelock--BA says she has learned to trust me
  • Perfect mounting the second time and good use of phases on first ask
1. keep talking
2. self carriage at the walk/passenger


Lesson Notes:
  • I asked about riding with soft feel, connection with the reins and MH said its not about the reins--its a connection of energy and mental connection. Rein length can vary depending on what I am comfortable with. Note: Sephira has no issue with my picking up soft touch and soft feel.
  • So we started with a walk on the buckle as we would do any time warming up. Generally I walk until Try blows or I feel a readiness in Sephira's body to do something more. MH says she walks Richmond for 5 minutes or so.
  • Good walk: I have changed my perspective. See first video link. This is actually passenger rather than my controlling--Get the walk and then follow her/passenger until she no longer maintains. No nagging. I can get the good walk from leg/two legs/stick tapping my leg or her shoulder if sticky. If the walk was too much energy--little, quick 1/2 halt. I had a few strides that felt more like what I envision her walk could be but it didn't show up on the video. If correction is too be made, make it SOON. Did shorten reins after a bit. "Good following, good use of aids." The term is "in front of my leg."
  • Stickiness--too take this further: She may be sticky because she needs SUPPLING like a dancer will stretch/loosen parts of the body before a ballet class begins. So we can use simple bending/moving her off my leg. (zone 3/at the girth) No reins. That bend will get us more balanced, more "through" and we will have a better ride. MH starts with circles and serpentines soon for this reason. Adding this the walk need not be as forward. MH likes to just meander with it--no pattern--focus just on moving off the leg. I found that Sephira did not move as well off the left side and when I moved the stick to that side we had some really nice steps--see first video.
  • Question: Correction to me to LOOK STRAIGHT AHEAD. Do I turn my torso to help or does that stay straight ahead also??? I have some real HOMEWORK to do here in my body with both Try and Sephira--I have have developed some funky habits of looking to the center of the imaginary circle on the bend--it does help bend the horse BUT causes other problems. WATCH VIDEO of accomplished riders.
  • Trot: The first requirement for the trot is a forward walk to set up for the upward transition. The first video shows a pretty nice upward transition. Correction to shorten outside rein to help us stay on a true circle and balance her. Maintained rhythm in the serpentine. Had reins too short which held her back while I urged her on. The went to looser reins and had a lovely free trot on video--MH said I likely did not need reins that loose.
  • Soft feel--perhaps for now at a walk, my eyes closed--see how friendly my hands can be.


Tuesday, August 19, 2014

MMJ week 3 preview - using my thoughts??

From MMJ: 
Below is a quote that I think really hits home ... and the last line is something we'll focus on in Session 3 ... Giving our "Mind" something to watch and focus on in order to quiet it and then align it ...

"Reflections on a quiet mind:
Ways to have a quieter mind:
Become aware of your thoughts, most of our thoughts are on auto-pilot and have a life of their own.
Ask your mind to be still, don't demand it this creates the energy of resistance.
Observe your mind but don't react on it, at first your mind will scream at you for attention. Gently continue observing.
Invite silence into your life, simply ask it
Dont' get upset if your mind is too busy this creates a cycle of energy and a repetitive pattern of thinking.
Most of the minds thoughts are echoes from the past, stop feed the echoes and they fade.....
Practice only using parts of your mind that are necessary for what you are engaged in."
Martin Soulreader

Monday, August 18, 2014

Monday with Sephira

Sephira

  • I loved her trot
  • I loved her canter
  • She licked and chewed after HQ yield on the ground
  • She was tense when I arrived and lovely and relaxed with me by the time we got to the ring.
  • She likes to stretch which is cool as I love a horse to stretch.
  1. mounting block - friendly game
  2. soft feel--really soft -- how friendly can my hands be??
When I arrived horses were still out and acting pretty crazy--thunderstorm predicted for afternoon would have made for waaaaaaay too much time in their stalls so no turn in despite the heat.

When Sephira and I got to the ring I asked her to circle both ways and saw no sign of the silliness of the other horses. Then we played with B Me mirroring (Sephira was curious where Try was not) then using HQ yields to check out the cookie of 60 seconds of visualization with golden feeling and Sephira licked and chewed. However, she doesn't get the idea of phases in cueing!!

Riding: Our space was a bit limited to avoid the stallion but we walked and trotted on loose rein to warmup. Then in the dressage ring we played with getting the good walk--much better today--into a good trot. Trot was a little sticky at times but I was ok with carrot stick tapping my leg to energize her. We did circles and serpentines. Transitioning to a good walk and back to trot. Sometimes just taking a break at a walk. Then canter--upward transitions better and broke gait only once when I wasn't paying attention. Canter was fun and trot was glorious. Hung out after then shower etc. 

BA compliment to us for taking our time to get to know each other and how much Sephira seems to like me because of my efforts to understand her.

Sunday - Lesson with Kathy and Try and watch Lisa's lesson

Plan: getting my relaxation and golden feeling going on the drive to the barn. No videographer today so set up both ipad and camera. This is a TRANSCRIPTION mostly of our 45 minute lesson.

Try did NOT want to do anything. She came to me easily and relaxed in her stall but turned her head to avoid the halter. Waited and eventually she was ok. (Later Kathy said she was saying she hadn't had a chance to have her cup of coffee and check her email. LOL So true. Both Try and Sephira tend to not want to do anything first thing in the morning--after feeding but before the hay is gone. In a couple hours then they are bored and DO want to leave their stalls to do whatever.) Anyway Try kept telling me this so I wondered what kind of ride she had with Dawn the day before??

Warmup: We did the mirroring--she was relaxed and pleasant and mildly curious as mirroring is something we have done many hours of in the past in different ways. I stayed upright with my shoulders and was more comfortable. Then task: I decided on a simple task as time was short with lesson in a few minutes. I asked for back-up and draw back into me. yoyo. The away as great--cued with slight increase in body energy and lift finger as higher phase. Coming back she was hesitant and I needed to touch the rope the first two times. Then did 60 second count with visualization each time. That was very pleasant and each time we did the task it got better. Try's release was not really big as the task was so simple. When I have more time I will use a task that she has to puzzle out for herself as that is when I am most likely to get the big release.

Warmup in the saddle: walk til she blew--quickly today. the alternate walk, slow trot to slowly build energy. then lots of energy. Then we went into dressage ring and did a trot pattern without using reins and a little shoulder in and haunches in to review for me. We also did leg yields asking for big crossing step on the ground FQ and HQ.

Lesson starts:
CHECK LIST: Can I determine what to choose to improve and have the tool box ready?

Walk: We worked on check list for me to develop for myself.
1. my position--that is easiest
2. Try: is she balanced forward and back, pulling or pushing, right and left
3. Try's outside hind leg was sluggish compared with her inside right hind leg. I was impressed with myself that I could FEEL it!
4. So how to get more engagement in outside hind leg--we explored methods, TOOLBAG
  1. change rein to circle
  2. turn on the forehand
  3. haunches in
  4. leg yields on the ground
  5. partial displacement
So we played with alternating partial displacement of right and left hind leg (can be used to slow and to power up) Do right and left like conga line. Will loosen topline also. Change my weight aid, hip more forward, scissor legs as I change direction. It is NOT about the reins. Can reinforce with voice and stick. Can be done in any pattern--diagonal, circle, serpentine. Also we did haunches in as we have been doing that a lot lately. 

My question about opposite rein to speak to HQ: Kathy says be careful as you can get too much bend and she will fall out in the opposite shoulder. Also the outside rein will steady her FQ so her HQ can catch up. If she gets quicker in front then HQ will be way out behind again.

I had suggested the turn on the forehand and Kathy suggested doing it in the corners as a walking turn on the forehand and Try and I got a couple really great steps.

Get overall feel, turn loose, dance. (prerequisite for me--nitpick, have a clear pic of what to do in my body, practice it and then let it go)

8:50 For Try with her conformation it is more difficult for her to use her HQ than her FQ so she decides to do what is easier for her.

Trot: check--even front and back? pulling vs pushing? She was using her FQ more but harder for me to feel as perhaps to a lesser degree than with walk before.  So what is the solution: back to the walk and played with Shoulder In and Shoulder Out--alternating with the purpose to relax and soften the shoulders.

I got a bit confused at this point: "If she is stiff in one side of her neck, do a little rein isolation on that side periodically. For shoulders out have shoulders on the track and haunches on an inner track. Switch to shoulders in--push her out don't let haunches fall in." ??????????? ASK

Then back to the trot: Now how balanced does it feel. I thought level then downhill. CHECK other camera here--still confused.

We made her think about different parts of her body and then Try says it is ok not to be stiff and I'd like to go forward now. Pleased with herself--waiting and listening for me--not taking control of the trot.

A question I had: Given I like our initial warmup to have a passenger element--if her trot is runny and she is a bit emotional--do we just experience that as is or ask for a better trot? Kathy says--yes let her express herself for a while then correct it--suggests using circles so Try corrects herself instead of my making her change her trot.

At 20 min. Spiraling in and out. I was not able to do moving sh and haunches R and L and spiral. Keep it simple and just spiral. Head--look in to center or on the current circle arc--my torso. ASK??? Using spiral to let Try figure out how to collect herself as the circle gets smaller. Then repeat at sitting trot. Must have forward energy first more than bending. Get a good trot and use my body for spiraling. ASK

pretty ballet ribcage: homework

Canter:
1/2 halts to steady Try, slow the canter--keep them brief and let go of it. Then do it again if need be til she gets it.

Stretching at the trot: yummy. correct it as needed.